Sexuality is such a confusing topic. And I think every person has their own unique sexuality that's just hard to explain to others.
Like, I completely understand what you're saying, and I know other girls that have said similar things. But I don't get it. Guys, girls, they're equal in my eyes. Different, but each still just as desirable as the other. And I've had intense emotional connections with each. So I don't really get how other people aren't able to do the same.
But I hate the term "bisexual", so I usually go with "queer" or "gay". Or "equal-opportunity lover". Whatever.
I think a lot of the confusion with Willow comes from the fact that it's a TV show and having a bisexual character is a lot "edgier" than just having a lesbian character. So it appears that Willow "turned gay" somehow. Personally, I think there are several ways to explain this away (that she was always a lesbian or that she was always bisexual or that she truly did "turn gay" in college).
One thing I've come to learn, though, is to just take people at their word on this sort of stuff. Willow identifies as a lesbian, so she's a lesbian. I'm not gonna tell her (or anyone else) otherwise, no matter what their past experience. It's not really my place.
Honestly, my life improved the day I stopped pondering my sexuality and just started enjoying it. It's a pain in the ass to keep trying to label myself or place myself on that damned annoying Kinsey scale (that every straight person seems to refer to for some reason). Just be yourself and you'll be brilliant.
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Date: 2009-03-30 09:52 pm (UTC)Like, I completely understand what you're saying, and I know other girls that have said similar things. But I don't get it. Guys, girls, they're equal in my eyes. Different, but each still just as desirable as the other. And I've had intense emotional connections with each. So I don't really get how other people aren't able to do the same.
But I hate the term "bisexual", so I usually go with "queer" or "gay". Or "equal-opportunity lover". Whatever.
I think a lot of the confusion with Willow comes from the fact that it's a TV show and having a bisexual character is a lot "edgier" than just having a lesbian character. So it appears that Willow "turned gay" somehow. Personally, I think there are several ways to explain this away (that she was always a lesbian or that she was always bisexual or that she truly did "turn gay" in college).
One thing I've come to learn, though, is to just take people at their word on this sort of stuff. Willow identifies as a lesbian, so she's a lesbian. I'm not gonna tell her (or anyone else) otherwise, no matter what their past experience. It's not really my place.
Honestly, my life improved the day I stopped pondering my sexuality and just started enjoying it. It's a pain in the ass to keep trying to label myself or place myself on that damned annoying Kinsey scale (that every straight person seems to refer to for some reason). Just be yourself and you'll be brilliant.